Potty Training the boy #1
When I potty trained Shayla-Rae, thanks to our blended family set-up, there had been so many back and forths, it went on for months as we couldn’t reach a point of mutual decision on how we would do it. The ‘other mummy’ as the girls call their Mum didn’t really want to do it and wasn’t sure she was ready. Finally after Judah was born (3 weeks old to be exact) we went to Butlins and were fortunate to have the girls for 11 days straight and I just thought, ‘right that’s it, we’ve been at this for ages’ and just took no nappies with us.
Shayla was a couple of months away from turning 3 and more than ready. Aside from an unfortunate code brown incident in the swimming pool, which according to the lifeguard is quite normal (I was horrified) at Butlins, and some mysterious rabbit droppings (that apparently belonged to no-one) appearing in the bedroom one morning (yak) we were home and dry by the end of the week.
I have been informed that boys are usually later than girls so hadn’t expected to even be having the conversation about whether we should potty train Judah yet before his 2nd birthday, but, I guess as he sees his older sisters and us using the toilet and he is an observant child, he kept asking.
I procrastinated as I was not having a good time hormonally and figured it would be crazy to pile on any more pressure but eventually gave in and bought a potty and a seat for on top of the loo, as I was starting to feel like I was mean Mommy not allowing my child to potty train when he was asking.
I started to read up on various different techniques and thought we would have a go. The first day was great, we just went for the bare-bum approach and had multiple successes that resulted in stickers, but we needed to go out for the evening and I didn’t want him to feel embarrassed or on show at our friends home so we caved and stuck a nappy on him.
Day two I was exhausted and had a severe headache. Now us mum’s know there is no such thing as a day off, I was on my own with 2 babies and was trying to make sure Judah’s potty training journey was about success and not failure. I was struggling to keep my eyes open so led down on the sofa, once I’d made sure they were safe to play. Eden was in her MAGIC astro bouncer, Judah roaming around, but I had visions of him pooing on me as I accidentally fell asleep (obviously I didn’t fall asleep) so I just stuck a nappy on him just incase. Feeling like a failure as we mothers do, I apologised to my husband for failing in our venture when he returned from work. He was just finishing out his last social work placement and told me to just leave it til his university course was finished and to stop fretting. So we did.
I was then advised by a friend as I felt mean stopping his progress, to just buy him pull pjs and leave the potty around. This I did, and one week, it seemed as though Judah potty trained himself. Getting a number two in the potty with Shayla was a MASSIVE deal, she would hold it in for days then when we would put a nappy on (if we were going out somewhere like a wedding where we didn’t want any accidents) she would go. I expected it to be a big thing for Judah too, so like with Shayla we promised him a teddy of his choosing for the triumphant day when he did a number 2 on the potty. I thought this would mark the pinnacle and finalisation of the potty training but with Judah it came much easier. He just took himself to the potty and went for it. Then demanded a minion teddy which I promptly ordered from Amazon next day delivery.
So this is where we are up to. He seems to want to do it himself but not completely. We had a triumphant day out with just underpants and no nappy at the soft play, but we then pushed our luck and went to visit a local nursery. Judah stayed in the class he would be in as we looked round and had the time of his life but also wet himself three times in an hour which has put me off pushing it on him myself. So nappies were back today. Boo, feel like a failure again.
I am definitely up for advice and tips, but thought if we journal the process it may help others with what
not to do also.
Tomorrow is another day and we will see where it takes us.
Feel free to comment below any suggestions or recommended reading for us.
Alexandra (& Judah)