{The Ordinary Moments 2015} #5 – Looking Back

{The Ordinary Moments 2015} #5 – Looking Back

This week I have mostly been feeling nostalgic.  Sometimes I forget what an absolute whirlwind James’ and my relationship has been.  Also, just how quickly these beautiful little girls that God brought into my life have changed whilst I’ve not been looking.  We have been so busy getting married, having babies, moving houses that sometimes I forget what I’ve witnessed.

Shayla-Rae was just under 4 months older than Eden is now when I met James.  This little baby/toddler became a little girl right under my eyes, and I somehow forgot to soak it all in.  I think blogging has really helped me to savour the moments.  To get my head around the milestones, and know that we will have documented the babies lives and I will be able to look back and remember.  Yet, pre-blogging, or before I started blogging with this purpose (my old blog was more anonymous and more therapeutic) two precious children were gifted into my care, for varied amounts of days a week.  These photos are all stolen from my facebook page and mostly taken with first generation iphone so bear with me:

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Shayla and I (Shay aged about 20 months)

Now I’m not saying that I haven’t seen Isis grow and change I definitely have.  For as long as I have known Isis though she has been a school child.  She was in reception class when I met James, so I have seen her grow into a beautiful, kind, helpful girl.  Especially as the babies kept coming, she is so wonderfully maternal, and very helpful.  I don’t tell her enough how much I appreciate her.

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Isis aged 5

This baby – toddler – child stage that passes so quickly.  The one I am almost fighting to stay in with Judah and Eden, I was there for that with Shayla, I just didn’t think to get my head around it, or document it.  Of course, I have, there are so many photos of them all over my facebook and in frames around our home.  I didn’t just become a Mamarazzi when I birthed children, it was as soon as these precious princesses were gifted into my life.  It dawned on me this week, that next year 2016 Judah will start school.  It hit me so hard, one of those lightbulb moments…. argh… I’m going to have to share my baby…. I’m preparing him to be able to pave his way in the world….. I didn’t like this revelation.  I can’t believe that this time has passed so quickly before my eyes for Shayla, and I’m watching it all flash before me again with Judah and Eden.

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Judah just a little bit younger than Eden is now

These precious girls taught me how to be Mum, before my own babies came along.  They taught me how to be selfless, to take them on excursions when they were going stir crazy, even if I was unwell.  They showed me how to teach, instruct, pass on my skills, to bake with, to create with, to wash, dress and style another person so that they felt and looked beautiful before focusing on myself.

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the month I moved in with James, Shayla was 22 months old and Isis was 5
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baking with Isis aged 5
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Isis weaving aged 6

These little girls were the ones I would go without for, the ones I would rather spend my money on.  Dance lessons, pretty dresses would soon overtake the social nights out demand for my finances.

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Shay in her first ballet uniform aged 2
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Shay enjoying hama beads aged 3

These precious princesses showed me how easily they could take another person into their hearts and love them unconditionally when their little brother came along.  They have never made their siblings that they only get to see half the week feel as though they were an outsider.  They have lovingly embraced them and accepted them as one of them.  Family.  When people would throw around words like half-brother or half-sister, they understood the technicality, but the words were meaningless to them as these were their siblings.

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Shay aged 2 with baby Judah

I have planned every birthday party for the last 4 years and I have loved every minute of being in their lives.  Whether people like the term or not, we are a blended family.  No-one would know that the girls are not mine unless they spoke to us.  We never pretend that we’re a first family, but we naturally look like one to all those on the outside who are none the wiser.

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Isis at Shayla’s 4th bday party
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Isis aged 7 and Shayla aged 3

These girls changed my world.  I will always love them.  I will never forget how they changed me, and I thank them for helping me learn how to raise children.  Judah and Eden will be forever grateful to them too, as they had a Mummy who was better prepared than if Daddy had never had little princesses already.

Thank you princesses for paving the way, for accepting me as Mummy and reminding me to treasure every minute with the babies.  It will not be long til they are following in your footsteps and wowing their teachers at school.  I want to soak in every moment.  Daddy and I are so proud of the little women that you have become and know that you only blossom more beautifully with time.  We pray we learn to water the seeds of love, kindness, patience, gentleness, self-control, peace, joy and goodness in your lives.  You bring us delight every day, when you are not with us, just the thought of you puts a smile on our faces.
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8 thoughts on “{The Ordinary Moments 2015} #5 – Looking Back

  1. Oh Alexandra this is so beautiful. I have actual tears in my eyes. They do grow so quick and sometimes it’s worth just taking a minute to realise how lucky we are and what we actually have in our lives. These little people are by far the most important things- the love you feel for them is just beautiful to read about. xx

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    1. Aww thanks Katie xx they really are, just saw my friend posted something about her daughter on facebook and I whole heartedly agreed ‘I don’t want her to think the whole world revolves around her, but I need her to know my whole world does’

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  2. Aww they really are gorgeous girls! Such a lovely post and shows what a wonderful step mum you are. I first met Seb’s sister when she was 2 and she changed my world too, I love her as if she was my own. I think the bond you make when children are little can last a lifetime if you nurture it and keep it alive. Lovely xx

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    1. Yes definitely. It’s so wonderful (although obviously sad for the child there had to be a relationship breakdown in the first place) when you meet step children so young. Shayla doesn’t remember a time before me. It’s always been Mummy’s house, and Daddy’s house. She’s a very happy well adjusted child. Isis had more issues but obviously she remembers life before. I hope we survive the teenage years with as much love x

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  3. Oh what a beautiful post – and two beautiful girls too. It’s so lovely that you’ve found your groove as a big blended family and lovely to have so many memories to look back on!

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