‘Just the 2 of Us’ 2015 – #6
If you follow our ‘Just the 2 of Us’ weekly link up you’ll have seen that a couple of weeks ago Shayla and I messed up our timing and were unable to go and do something fun together. Instead our time was spent doing homework *oops*. When I asked Shayla on Sunday afternoon what she would like to do, she said the same as a couple of weeks ago. She wanted to go to the park, and then go and have a coffee. She says ‘coffee’ but she means hot chocolate. I guess she knows we go to sit in the coffee shop. I wanted to veto Shayla’s request for the park but I thought (very quickly might I add as she was searching my face for a response) you know what, she doesn’t get to go to the park very often. This is obviously somewhere that to her is the most exciting place. She chooses it everytime over the cinema or any other activity. It dawned on me, with her busy first year at school, the cold winter months, and lots of dance lessons, outdoor play has been missing from Shayla’s diary for a while. So, despite the cold, off we went to the park.
I’m not the biggest fan of taking them to the Park for one on one time, as really, I don’t view it as quality time, we don’t really talk, they would just wander around playing on things and I would follow them around. Also, I feel guilty for going somewhere I know they would all want to be, and they would play happily together with just one of them. Now, if I was more physically able, I would probably join in on the park, but that will have to wait til my hips are better. For now though, facilitating her imagination and just being there to catch her if she stumbles is the quality time that Shayla wants… I may want her to chat and pour out her hopes and dreams, but she’s still only 5. Something I’m learning is that even if the children were at a more mature age and could relate to me the way I’m more adept with, doesn’t mean that this is quality time to them. I am still new to this journey of motherhood and I am learning a lot along the way.
It was actually really nice just following around and making sure she could explore, stretch out her muscles, knowing that if she got stuck I would be there to help her. Climbing around on the climbing ropes showed me that she loves her independence but was looking for me as soon as the route got a bit more treacherous. I loved watching her, she looked very Katniss Everdeen with her braids and natural outdoor abilities. I posted a pic where she looks like she’s drawing back a bow to our Living Arrows page yesterday.
She chose to go along the outside of the ropes and there soon became nothing to hold on to, so I held her hand as she balanced on the ropes. She eventually fell into my arms and I explained that if she’d stayed within the confines of the ropes there would have been ropes to hold on to. That was the architects design. There’s a lesson in that for all of us I’m sure *winks*.
We only stayed at the park for about 20 minutes, then she finally decided that yes, it was a bit cold. She had tried to convince me earlier that she wasn’t cold at all. I made sure that there was nothing left that she wanted to go on, I didn’t want her to feel disappointed if we left. She then went off to pursue a couple more ventures, then decided, ‘yes, I am done now.’ So off we went to Starbucks for a hot chocolate and fruit tea. I’d not been in Starbucks on a Sunday afternoon before, and especially not a cold one. The queue was huge and there weren’t many places to sit. A lady moved her bag though and we had the comfiest seats in the place. Lovely, I could see the envy as Shayla sat down and I queued. That never happens to us though, so we enjoyed the comfy chairs.
I was irritated that I received some texts that needed dealing with whilst we sat in Starbucks. It was a shame that I had my phone with me, but it was urgent and I needed to sort something. I then tried to do the usual parent chat and ask her how school was going, what she was enjoying and she eventually began chattering away about the things we were planning to make next week for her school friends for Valentines Day. Little cutie. In the car on the way home I apologised to Shayla-Rae for needing to deal with my phone at Starbucks and she heartwarmingly replied ‘it’s ok Mummy, I had a nice time with you. You’re still a good Mummy.’ Little sweetheart, I gave her a big kiss and a cuddle when we arrived home then out of the car and back inside to the rest of the clan. It had been lovely to get away together, even if it was only for about an hour and a half. I was so glad that we had found the time.
If you’ve had any one on one time with any of your littlies this week, from a stolen moment to an outing, feel free to grab the badge and link up below, make sure to hashtag on twitter #justus2 and I will be able to find you and retweet…
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