Me & You {May}

Me & You {May}

Finding time to have couple time, or a date night when you have lots of children is difficult, even when you have an Au Pair.  Martina is here but we are often sooooo tired that the idea of trying to go somewhere when we feel like we’ve survived the day once the babies are in bed, it almost makes it feel like a chore.  We love just snuggling down for the evening as early as 7:30pm.  Once the children are happily in bed we just want to relax and enjoy each other’s company.  Even if we’re not saying anything, nothing beats a cuddle from your bestie when you’re feeling tired.
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We had intended to go out somewhere Saturday night together, but after an eventful day which finished with us having issues with broken keys and struggling to get into the house, it was nearly 10 o’clock before the girls went to bed.  So date night on Saturday did not happen.  It’s now Bank Holiday Monday and we have had a lovely weekend.  Sun, Sea and Sinking Sand at the beach on Saturday.  Mostly tidying and relaxing in the house Sunday, and after we had filmed a ‘Mummy vs Daddy’ challenge for our YouTube channel with the girls, James and I decided to go out for a walk whilst the sun was setting.

Despite having Martina here, this is something we just don’t think to do  Now those Summer nights are (hopefully) approaching, we want to make a habit of just walking around the local woodlands, maybe if it’s particularly warm we can stop at the Inn at the end of our road for a cold drink sat outside on their benches.  I’m looking forward to enjoying many sunsets with James this Summer. Martina goes back home at the end of September, and although of course we can get babysitters (we never do though), I want to make sure that we made the most of the time that we had.

As it’s been a while since we did one of these posts *slaps own wrist* and I had make-up on from filming our ‘Most Likely to… Mummy vs Daddy‘ challenge, we decided to take the camera and tripod out with us.  It was very funny, when I had James holding some bluebells near his face so I could set the camera up and a group of young men all walked past.  The comic timing was brilliant.  James and I were in hysterics, I love how it takes A LOT to embarrass my husband though.  He has no inhibitions or ego (mostly) so he is not easily embarrassed.  It tickled me to see that he felt silly.  This isn’t something I see often, he’s usually playing up to being silly.

I love you James and I’m looking forward to going out with you somewhere this evening.  Don’t EVER change, I’m so grateful God gave you to me, and that you love me so unconditionally.  He really gave me the best when He gave me you.

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If you’d like to watch what we were filming then you can head over to our YouTube channel or click on the video below.

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Me & You {February}

Me & You {February}

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This month has been one of our most stressful in the four years that we have been together.  We’ve come to a financial crossroads.  You know that phrase ‘the night is always darkest before the dawn’?  Well, we are just about to see the dawn but it’s all looking very messy at the moment.  If you’ve been a blog follower from the beginning you will know my husband only graduated university last July and started work in October.  As a Social Worker, being able to drive was kind of crucial.  He passed his driving test last week after completing a three day intensive course.  We are so proud of him, but the contract he is on at the moment is with an agency and because he took those days off, of course he doesn’t get paid for them.  Was a bit of a gamble but it desperately needed doing and because he passed first time – Wuhoo!!! – his earning potential has now increased.  Lots of interviews lined up, again, he will lose pay to attend, and then probably have to work a month in hand (he currently gets paid weekly) but the dawn is about to break.  We’re just going to struggle in the interim.

Due to this, (and the arrival of Martina) we obviously have NO spare money.  None at all.  His parents brought us a load of food shopping yesterday as they always do when they come to visit and it has NEVER been more appreciated.  So helpful to know there are full cupboards when there’s 7 mouths to feed daily.  We decided we would stay in and take some time together just chilling and watching a movie.  This is something we do often, so it wasn’t like anything in particularly special but we made sure that we went outside first and took some photographs of ourselves for this months Me & You.

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These photographs were just taken in the private carpark we share with 3 neighbours behind our house.  They must’ve wondered what we were doing.  We had tried to go out for a walk but the hailstone decided to make an appearance.  Not much longer after we’d all gone back inside, the sun came out.  Was very frustrating but at least we managed to capture these before it started to hail again.  I was disappointed that we hadn’t managed to go anywhere before this month’s project was due, but we have had an interesting week, with friends staying in our already very full house.  We will be going out somewhere this week, somewhere free or very cheap of course, but we will make sure that we make the effort.

We watched the movie ‘Country Strong’ on Netflix.  A little bit dark, but if you like ‘Nashville’ you would probably enjoy it.  Country music and lives of celebrities facing substance abuse problems.  It wasn’t the sort of movie that left you feeling all romantic, but it held both of our attentions whilst we snuggled on the couch and it was thought provoking.  I love Leighton Meester (Blair Waldorf from Gossip Girl) and enjoyed her role in this.  She’s great at playing sweet characters, very ‘Cher’ like – Alicia Silverstone in Clueless – and I think she has a great voice.

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We’re all a little bit under the weather at the moment, but having Martina here has been brilliant for us as a couple, and our stress levels.  I’ve been well enough to potter on and get things done in the house whilst Martina supervises the children playing.  James has been able to go to work knowing that I’m not going to pass out and leave the children unattended.  A genuine concern of ours when I’m having a bad health day.  Getting on top of the housework slowly and knowing that we won’t lose anymore money because James can go to work every day however I’m feeling.  It has eased the tensions between us and I’m so glad that we took the plunge in hiring an au pair.  She has been invaluable already.  I’m enjoying having my husband back and less stressed even though things look most bleak at the moment.  We can see the light at the end of the tunnel.  I’m not sure about next month, but I’m convinced by April’s Me & You, we’ll be able to go for a great night out together, dinner and a movie?? Wow, now that would really be pushing the boat out *chuckles*.
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