Working Nights

Working Nights

About 6 weeks ago whilst chatting to a friend online I decided to apply for a job working night shifts.  This was around the same time we decided to send the children to Private School and therefore obviously needed some extra income.  Life has been a little crazy since then as there has been so much to sort but I am so happy that all of this was set in motion.

I had an interview and then due to the nature of the job had to wait for my DBS certificate so I had a while to get used to the fact that I would be working again.  It has been so long since I had a ‘real’ job.  I have been self-employed for so long it was really nerve wracking going for an interview.  As I was applying for night shifts though I don’t think I had much competition.

I opted to work nights as I want to still be at home with the children until they start school.  No offence to the Mums that work 9-5 (we’re all just doing our best aren’t we to make ends meet) I just really wanted to be at home with them for as long as I could before they go off to school.  James’ wage was enough that we could cope until Eden went to school but with now needing to pay school fees a job for myself was very much needed.

I had to work two full weeks in the days on induction and that was very strange.  The children hated me being away, especially Judah who I kept finding curled up at the end of our bed when I awoke.  It was a huge change for him at nearly 3.  I guess at an earlier age it just becomes normal as their routines aren’t as firmly set.

Of course we have Martina who was prepared for having them extra, and also my Mum was on call to help the days that she wasn’t working.  So Martina spent some days over at my Mums and my Mum spent a day at our home.  They made it work bless them.  The hardest part for me was that my induction days happened to fall around Judah’s 3rd Birthday.  I hated not being with him on his birthday but James took the day off so that he could take him out to do something nice and we gave Martina the day off which she definitely deserved.

I assured my little man that I won’t be working in the day again, James told him that I would be working nights though so he was all confused with my leaving for work at 9:45.  Obviously he was in bed and blissfully unaware but because Daddy had told him before he went to bed he was all anxious about it.

When I started this post, we had Martina, but it has been sat in my drafts for a while.  Judah is just starting to ease up as my shadow.  I am finding it challenging shall we say without help in the days, but on the whole we are doing really well.  I have been going to visit my Mum or my sister who have been really helpful letting me steal a nap here and there.

Of course I am exhausted and my body is adjusting but I’m so happy that I am able to earn some money for our family and still be able to be with my beautiful babies in the day.

I’m really enjoying working and knowing I’m doing something worth while.  I’ve met some lovely people already and don’t feel as isolated anymore as a Mum of four that was usually only ever with the children.  Going back to work before the children are at school isn’t for everyone, and I’m not sure I would’ve done it had it not been night shifts, but just to encourage any of you out there thinking about it.  The worst that can happen is that it doesn’t work out for you and you hand in your notice.  I’m very pleased I made this choice and look forward to what it can make possible for our family.

So what are you waiting for?   What’s the worst that can happen?  They’re so worth it!

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They’re so worth it!

Chalk and Cheese

Chalk and Cheese

Our two youngest are very close in age, at only 16 months apart they have very similar facial features but they could not be more different personality wise.  I love seeing their differences as it reminds me how unique we all are.  They have been parented the exact same way, but their outlook on the world is very different.

Judah was your normal baby/toddler until he became about 18 months old.  It has become increasingly more apparent as time goes on that this child is extremely self aware.  He is cautious, maintains a keen observation of danger and likes to be in charge of what is happening to him.  As a baby we could push him on the swings and he would love it, send him down the slides at the park and he’d gleefully giggle, but at about 18 months old he decided that this was no longer a place of fun, but a source of potential danger at every turn haha.

He loves going to the park still, but he will wander around the outskirts, enjoying walking up and down steps and exploring the grassy areas, playing in sand pits, but he won’t go on a swing, or go down a slide.  He will walk to the top of the slide and then, walk back down again.  We don’t push him, we don’t call him a wimp.  We try and encourage him, the usual ‘yay Judah, are you coming down? Mummy will catch you.’ when he’s stood at the top of a slide but usually he replies no and toddles back down from whence he came.

Eden could not be more different.  She will clamber on everything.  Too tall for her, not a problem, she will maneuver a way to make it work, even if she hangs and lifts her body up.  She is surprisingly strong for one so small.  If she sees a giant slide, that is big for a child of Isis age (9) she will still walk her way to the top and slide down it.  She doesn’t need any encouragement, any help (of course we will be following closely ready to catch at any point that she may stumble) she will go down sat on her bottom, head first on her front, led down feet first.  She is our little adventurer and nothing will stop her.  She will go in the swing and chuckle loudly as Daddy pushes her so high that I’m telling him to stop.  She’s so fearless it wouldn’t surprise me if she tried to climb out whilst it’s swinging so I like to make sure she’s at a safe distance where we could catch her if she does do this.  (I’m not being extreme here, this is 100% likely with Eden).

I love watching their differences and on Bank Holiday Monday when we met up with friends I took lots of photos of them playing on the park.  Judah won’t get in the swing but he’ll push Eden when she’s on the swing.  These pictures make my heart melt.  I love you our beautiful babies.  Don’t ever feel pressured to be anything other than who you are… who you are is just perfect xxx

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Eden’s First Hike

Eden’s First Hike

There are some first milestones that just pass us by as parents and others that stand out to us.  I decided that Eden’s first time walking outside without her buggy would be a moment we would capture.  At the start of last week the weather was a bit gloomy and we were waiting for some sunshine as we were desperate to go outside.  Wednesday afternoon was just beautiful and I realised we’d left the buggy in the back of the car which Daddy had taken to work.  So, not to be deterred I asked Judah if Eden could borrow his monkey backpack (which he doesn’t really use anymore), after much deliberation he decided she was allowed to use it.  He didn’t have much of a choice really, but I couldn’t be doing with the potential tantrums.

After being freshly inspired about keeping memories by watching ‘Let’s talk Mommy’s’ interview with Lucy at ‘Dear Beautiful’ about creating videos (you can view by clicking here) I decided as I often do to grab the camera, this time with the intention of capturing some video footage as well as photographs.

She does so well with her little legs, it’s hard to tell how small she is seeing her next to Judah and Martina who are also very small.  If you imagine that Judah is about to turn 3 but still wearing 18-24 month old clothes, and Martina is not much taller than Isis who’s 9, you may start to get an idea of just how petite our Thumbelina really is as she walks alongside next to them.

I’m definitely learning as I go, I was in pain with my hips as I was walking so most of the time they were way ahead of me, which is saying something, with how long it takes Eden to get anywhere on her little legs.  If I could move the way I used to be able to, I would’ve captured a lot more close ups and got down more to their level.  Maybe even remembered that whilst I was busy taking photographs of them in the beautiful bluebells I could have caught some footage of their happy faces.  I forget when I see a beautiful shot that what is beautiful on photo, can sometimes come even more alive on film.  It may have only ended up as a 2 second clip on our video but I would’ve captured the way they interact with each other even more.

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It was really special to me to by DeleteAd” href=”#13002762″> share this moment with Martina our lovely aupair as on days like this when really I physically could barely move (I’m not exaggerating) with her help I’m able to get the children out to enjoy the sunshine.  I don’t feel sad that it’s her that’s in the videos holding my child for these first moments, I feel grateful.  Grateful that we were able to find such a wonderful aupair (you hear such horror stories), grateful that despite not having much disposable income we were able to afford some help.  Grateful that my babies are able to do things they wouldn’t otherwise be facilitated to because I have someone else helping spur me on when we can see that they’re feeling the cabin fever.

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{I’m going to be starting a series on the blog ‘Our Beautiful Aupair’ and over on our YouTube channel about Martina as I am asked so many times about what an aupair is, does, and how did we find her?  If you have any questions please comment below as I will try and answer them all in my first post.}

It was a really lovely afternoon.  When we finished walking around the little trail they played in the field at the bottom of our road for ages.  Judah LOVED just running around and it made me desperately crave a garden.  Again, I realised how blessed we are to have this little field just 400 meters away from our doorstep so they can run around and have fun.  It’s near to a really busy junction but is completely enclosed, so it’s quite surreal seeing them play as though they’re in the countryside.

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Judah and Martina stayed playing in the field whilst I took Eden home and prepared dinner for James’ arrival home from work.  Eden was so tired out after her hike I carried her the last part home, not recommended when you can barely walk yourself, seriously 50 meters feels like a marathon.  Eden fell asleep in my arms and then napped on the sofa (very helpful whilst I’m cooking).  It was perfect timing.  Martina and Judah came back at 5:45, James walked through the door 2 minutes later and then we all ate together.  The babies went to sleep so happy and content.  Then and there I made a mental note, that although I could now barely move, we would do this as often as we can on the sunny days.
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Here is our little video of Eden’s First Walk

Well done Eden we love you very much.

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